After hours of online searching, mails coming and going, a
few shy phone calls and the like, the date is set! You are going on your first
date with someone from another race! Excited much?
If you are a black man that is going to date white women,
or the other way around, the first thing that you need to keep in mind is that
this date should be pretty much like any other date. What we mean by that is
that you should be careful not to emphasize your cultural difference. You
should prepare for your interracial date the same way that you would for any
other date. Your goal should be to find activities that will give you the
chance to get to know the other person and come closer. Skin color has nothing
to do with it and both black men and white women should know that.
The festival
Be it a music festival, a food festival, an outdoor music
festival, it doesn't matter! Festivals are great for a first date as there are
enough things to keep you busy and talk about, in case there are awkward
moments. At the same time, being together at a festival is a nice experience to
share and you will have things to talk about at your second date as well! Make
sure it is not a cultural festival about your own heritage though. This is a good
date idea for later dates, but on a first date it will look like you are trying
to show off your culture or convert your date into your own values/ religion
etc. And do not pick a festival about their culture either, because then they
will feel at ease while you will feel like a foreigner and then your
differences will seem magnified.
The brunch
Go to a nice hotel and have brunch. This way you will get to
know each other while enjoying great coffee and food at the same time. Having a
first date in the morning makes it more casual and puts less stress on you than
a formal “I will pick you up at 21:00 and go to the best club ever” kind of
date. Having brunch in a boutique hotel is also a nice way to enjoy luxury for
a few hours without having to pay way too much for it.
The mix-and-match
One of you can pick were you will eat and the other can
choose a movie that you are going to watch. Or one of you can suggest a nice
place to go for a walk and the other person can choose an art exhibition to
visit together. This way the pressure of making a good impression with your
choices is split in half! If you feel that the lady prefers super dynamic men
and she likes to follow though, skip this one.
The photo booth
Ask your date to go on an adventure with you and discover as
many photo booths as you can, while walking. Take pictures in each one of them,
noting at the back the date, time and place. You can even bring photo props
with you and make it even more fun. This first date idea is fun and exciting
but there are two ways in which it can go wrong: one, your date's self esteem
is really bad and they hate taking pictures and two, there is no second date
and you end up with a bunch of reminders of this failed one. But we don't see
why anyone wouldn't want to see again a person with such original ideas. So, go
for it!
The aquarium
Aquariums are amazing places for dates. First of all, they
usually have these huge tanks where you can see whales and jellyfish swimming
peacefully, taking all the stress away. Then, they have those rooms where you
are actually surrounded by water on three sides, ceiling included, and sharks
are swimming on top of you. This gives you something to talk about. Plus, it is
a silent environment, where you can choose to either to talk quietly or be
silent yourself and it won't look awkward. On top of it, aquariums often have a
restaurant or two near-by and fun gift shops. You can buy your date a tiny
plastic seahorse and get her some ice cream. She will love you! There is only
one way this date can go wrong: if the is an animal rights activist or vegan,
she will refuse to go into the aquarium and will most probably call you
insensitive. For these ladies, try out an animal rescue.
The beach
Go on a picnic on the beach. And even if the weather is bad,
go for a walk. The view of the sea extending for miles and miles has a calming
effect on people, so you are likely to forget your date-stress. You can talk
about your childhood memories having to do with the beach or you can talk about
traveling and dream destinations. Dreaming together brings people closer in no
time. Just make sure you don't say anything too heavy like “I wish me, you and
our four future children would go on a cruise next year”. He will be terrified.
Keep it more abstract, no matter how big of a crush you are developing. After
all, it is a first date!
So whether you date black women or you date blackmen, make sure to always remember that you are just people after all. Relax
and enjoy your first date without thinking of the added challenges of
interracial relationship just yet. There is time for it after the third date!
