With divorce rates being so high, it is very likely that at
some point you will find yourself being attracted to a guy or gal that already
has children from a previous marriage or relationship. This scares many people
off, but don't be one of them! People who have kids already are often more
fulfilled and know what they want from life. Additionally, a woman who has
already children won't be bugging you all the time if her biological clock
starts ticking!
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Therefore, if you want to date white women and you find online the girl of your dreams but
then she reveals she has a child, don't freak out. Give it a chance and if you
ask the right questions then you will be able to determine if you are ready for
such a relationship or not. Following is a list of things to consider when you
start going out with a man or woman who already has kids. Go through the list
and think carefully about it before you jump into commitments.
The age of the kids
The younger the children, the more time they need to spend
with their mother and you might also need to take them along in some of your
dates. There is nothing wrong with that of course, if you know how to behave
around kids. Swearing, smoking, drinking alcohol are adult bad habits that you
should avoid at all costs in front of children. If you want to date white women, you might be looking
for adventure and women with very young kids might not be able to follow a
party lifestyle. Keep that in mind. On the other hand, parents with teenage
kids might have a harder time getting the kids to accept their new partners.
The number of kids
The more kids, the less time usually a woman has to date and
spend with her new partner, especially if the kids are young. Of course the
father or the grandparents can babysit every now and then, but when dating a
woman with two or more children, you need to be prepared to help her out as
well, if you want to spend more time with her.
The relationship
with the other parent
If your date has a good relationship with her ex husband/his
ex wife, things shouldn't be too complicated. Just keep in mind that they will
always be the parents of your date's kids and therefore they have the right to
call your date or visit their house. If you are the jealous type, this might be
a problem for you. Try to talk things through with your date and be
understanding when it comes to their communication with their ex. If their
relationship with them is bad, things can get more complicated. Reassuring the
ex partner that you are not trying to substitute them in their kids' life will
help a great deal.
The relationship
with the kids
You can date a parent and never meet their kids. This is the
best you can do, if you are dating just for fun and have no long term plans. This
way the kids won't get hurt once you are out of their mom's life. If, however,
you really like your date and you want to commit, then you need to start
establishing a relationship with their children as well. Start slowly and give
them time to get used to you.
Always ask your partner how they want you to approach their
kids and how their kids like to be treated. Do not bribe them with gifts but
try to build a substantial relationship by dedicating quality time to them.
